The Happiness Challenge

Finding happiness helped me stop worrying

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If there was an award for the person who worries the most in the world, I would probably win! I worry so much Springsters... From myself to my siblings and exams, from friends, to my body, to my future, the list goes on. I’m always expecting things to go wrong, and because of that they do!

Last week my bestie Nontando said she had had enough of my worrying. It was not getting me anywhere and she was right. I always felt anxious, stressed and distracted. Not cool!

Nontando suggested I try something called The Happiness Challenge. She told me happiness is not something that falls from the sky. You have to actively seek it and make a decision to be it. Nontando also said there were 3 steps on the journey to happiness. Here’s what she taught me about it:

STEP 1

To get me started Nontando asked me some questions to help me discover what I love in life. She asked me:

  • What do you dream about?
  • What gets you excited and gives you energy?
  • What are you passionate about?

These questions really got me thinking and helped me know myself more. I was able to write a long list of things that I love in life.

STEP 2

Once you have your happiness list, write down how much time you spend doing those things.

Mine looked like this:

Spending time with friends – Only 2 times a month because no one wanted to hang out with me because I worried too much.

Taking beautiful pictures – Never, because I thought I wasn’t good enough to be a photographer.

Learning to bake yummy cakes – Once in a while, because I was lazy and put it off.

WOW! I began to realise that I spent so little time doing what I love and so much time worrying! No wonder I felt anxious so much of the time.

STEP 3

Nontando told me the key to happiness is knowing what you love and doing it!! Next we took the 12 months of the year and made a plan for each month. Every month I would focus on doing something in my list that made me happy.

So in January I got a jar and started to save up for a camera. In February I spent more time in the kitchen with my parents learning some awesome recipes. And every weekend I made an effort to spend more time with my friends and be positive.

I’m so grateful to my bestie Nontando for teaching me how to be happy so I could say BYE TO WORRYING.

What do you think about The Happiness Challenge? Please let us know in the comments section.

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Maliwa

Hello ya'll I'm new .. I also have problems of stress and anxious.. what easy way to deal with?

Aug. 8, 2022, 6:13 p.m.

Busier

Hello guys I'm new here .l stay in vryheid naseshoba kukhona yin ongzyo I am lonely

Aug. 5, 2022, 2:57 a.m.

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Busier

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Maliwa

I'm here

Kgolofelo

Same😐

Mazola

Ofuna bengu mngane wakhe ndtheta nanani girls nantsi number yam ngafounela noba kunini 0733852079

July 31, 2022, 4:55 a.m.

yvonne69

Uhh

July 28, 2022, 8:27 p.m.

Cella

This won't work becuz I have anger issues.😤😤

July 26, 2022, 8:41 p.m.

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Mihle_

Sym

Sixishe

Hi l am new my name Mimi please can we chat.

July 26, 2022, 7:22 p.m.

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Reatlegile

Hi

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July 24, 2022, 2:16 p.m.

Fefe

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July 18, 2022, 6:23 a.m.

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Anastacia4k

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lebogang

we hav it

Portia

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Nomhle

Yhaaa that's actually a great idea🤞🔥😁

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Maliwa

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Nicole11

Uhm...ii think the happiness challenge is very good.. u know ii sometimes worry a lot and now ii would try these steps

July 17, 2022, 5:38 p.m.

Madikizela

Hi guys 🤩❤️

July 13, 2022, 12:54 p.m.

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Fefe

Are you new here

Portia

Hi

Ntebaleng

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July 13, 2022, 6:53 a.m.

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Madikizela

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Sethu

Sometimes being stuck with something bad that had happened in the past can affect you emotionally.I am Saying this because i also sometimes feel like that most of the time. Specially when i am around people i like being alone. But should i feel like that i take a book and read.. well that's how i feel better. I think you should try that too🖤

July 7, 2022, 6:58 p.m.

I sometimes feel angry about myself ..it makes me feel like no one wants to be close to me because I sometimes get angry ,feeling to be alone and sleep if I feel like,I don't know what to do to get my happiness back ...I hate to feel unsure about my happiness m tired of thinking bad things ...please advice me

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hi mapie im in the same situation im always worrying all the time about bad things that have happened to me,I feel like my life is going no where its like im I was born to cry and worry all time.I get angry so easily at any time I dont seem to get happy my family tries alot to make me happy bt I still feel unworthy,i prefer to be alone at most times because thats where im able to think about what ever I wanna think about,I think I have a serious problem because at some point i end up hating my family for no reason then i hear this small voice inside of me that says i need to calm down and try to control my anger.I really don't know whats making me sooo angry I tried figuring that out bt I cant find answers

Hi mapie im in the same situation im always worrying all the time about bad things that have happened to me,I feel like my life is going no where its like im I was born to cry and worry all time.I get angry so easily at any time I dont seem to get happy my family tries alot to make me happy bt I still feel unworthy,i prefer to be alone at most times because thats where im able to think about what ever I wanna think about,I think I have a serious problem because at some point i end up hating my family for no reason then i hear this small voice inside of me that says i need to calm down and try to control my anger.I really don't know whats making me sooo angry I tried figuring that out bt I cant find answers

Hello guys I'm new here . Hey mapie and parton . I was in a situation same as yours . I told myself that i had to find my happiness again and I would do anything to have it back . I would spend many hours on Internet asking for ways to find my happiness again . Girl its time to stand up for yourself and fight the darkness until there's a light . Wake up , pray and thank god for the gift that is your life , that you got a chance to live it again . Drink water then try to meditate . Meditation might take weeks , months or even a year or over to master it . You try yoga and just concertrate on exploring yourself and creating your own happiness .You need to remind yourself that you worthy and you deserve to be happy . Wake up and say this words to yourself: Im the best I can do it God is always with me Im a winner Today is my day Try to be positive and when you feel negative quickly say something positive Remind yourself that you're here in this world for a reason and god is always with you Wish you a good luck and don't be hard on yourself Love yourself and understand yourself I Love you 💜💜

Wake up and say this words to yourself: Im the best, I can do it ,God is always with me ,Im a winner, Today is my day!

lebogang

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Madikizela

Hello girl 🤩❤️ you

Hy guyz I'm new here, I wanted to ask that don't u have a WhatsApp group chat,couz here I'm using free basic

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Rapudi, welcome to Springster! Please be aware that Springster has a policy that prohibits revealing or giving out the personal details and contact information of other Springsters. This makes Springster a safe and comfortable space for you and other Springsters to communicate and share stories. We do not recommend taking conversations off this platform simply for safety reasons. Thank you Springster!

lebogang

pls can we make a group moya number guys me this is my 0795876285

Hy springster I'm new here, I wanted to ask that don't u have a WhatsApp group chat,couz here I'm using free basic

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

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Hey Rapudi, welcome to Springster! Please be aware that Springster has a policy that prohibits revealing or giving out the personal details and contact information of other Springsters. This makes Springster a safe and comfortable space for you and other Springsters to communicate and share stories. We do not recommend taking conversations off this platform simply for safety reasons. Thank you Springster!

lebogang

moya number vo chomieyy

Hello Springster I'm new here I wish you could teach me more about springster

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hi Spingster am new here and I can see my life will change completely I've been reading the stories

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hai springster i got a problem with my boyfrnd he got a baby mama and hes changing his baby mama pics on whatsupp making Profile pic its hurts me dont know what to do pls help i love the guy so much

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Hy Springer. What a great story .I am going to try following those steps because I am also a girl who lives in sadness and pain. I would always lock myself in my room nd cry everyday. I am so fat and always compares myself with my friends because they all have nice bodies. I never tell any of them about the challenge I'm facing. When I'm around them I have to fake a smile. When we have to go somewhere I always come up with excuses because I am different from them.. From now on I think I should stop worrying and focus on the things that will make me happy

March 20, 2022, 8:56 p.m.

Useful .. I hope it will work out for me too

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

I Quote: "She told me happiness is not something that falls from the sky. You have to actively seek it and make a decision to be it, also said there were steps on the journey to happiness... ...Nothing beats the choice of being Happy and making that your Habit....its not Easy but once you get into that Grove it becomes your Lifestyle... No matter what the World throws at you!!!!! U don't become Shaken :)

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Nothing much but it a going Thing to face challenges in our lfes that all for now

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hy. Me i always worry about myself i dnt knw whats wrong .. I always feel weak.my head is always in pain i dnt feel happy.i have low self-esteem even now tht i have done writing my last exams in g12 I dnt knw wat makes me happy n i dnt knw whr m gud at yoh am a mess So can u plz help me

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

Hy. Me i always worry about myself i dnt knw whats wrong .. I always feel weak.my head is always in pain i dnt feel happy.i have low self-esteem even now tht i have done writing my last exams in g12 I dnt knw wat makes me happy n i dnt knw whr m gud at yoh am a mess So can u plz help me

March 20, 2022, 8:55 p.m.

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Hey Springster Thank you for reaching out. From what you are describing, it looks as if you are suffering from depression. Although it is sad that you are feeling this way, these feelings are common with somebody who is going through many changes. You have already done the first step, you have asked for help and you should feel happy that you have taken the first step towards helping yourself. However, now that you have taken your first step, asking for help, now you need to take the second step and that is going to see a professional counsellor. If you go and speak to a counsellor in your local clinic or hospital, it will help you get through the issues that you facing in a constructive way. Counsellors can help you deal with the unhappiness that you are going through. There are different organisations that offer to counsel you for free. The South African Depression & Anxiety Support Group, SADAG, are a great organisation that offer services such as any mental health issues that you must face. Their website is www.sadag.org and they have a chatbox on the website where you can speak to a counsellor on the website. They also have support groups across the country and they can direct you to the nearest support group should you need one. Hopefully this help. Goodluck.

well it seems like it can help bcoz as I was reading it ,at least it made me smile n look happier to wat am

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

It's beautiful to have a friend like Nontando, I am glad you got off the world of worries girlfriend.

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.

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Hey Springster Thank you for reaching out. Yes, having a good friend on your side to help you through the tough times is always recommended and it can help lift the load off of your shoulders.

Thank you spring Ster very much for helping now my life is getting better and better 😊

March 20, 2022, 8:54 p.m.