Ask Springster: I had a fight with my bestie

What should I do?

Your thoughts (43)

This week on #AskSpringster we help a Springster who had a major fight with their bestie.

Mpho is 15 years old and has recently lost her best friend after they had a fight. She feels lost and all alone. She cannot concentrate at school anymore because she misses her friend. Mpho doesn’t know how to deal with this fight.

We asked a few Springsters for their advice, and this is what they had to say.

Solution:

Hi Mpho, Fighting with someone close to you can be an experience that is hard to deal with. Don’t worry it’s totally and completely OK to not be OK. Figure out how you would like to go forward. Is your relationship fixable or do you think that it is better for you to move on without her?

Remember, friends can have a positive or negative effect on you and your life - so stick with the people who support and love you. It is really important to speak to someone you trust about these feelings as they will be able to help you talk things through, and get the support you may need.

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Vuvu

I was told to apologize when you are wrong. But some friends have pride They won't even admit that they were wrong they'll always put a blame on you I always tell myself that i will not apologize when i didn't do anything wrong for the sake of peace If our friendship ends then let it be i won't babysit someone's ego

Aug. 17, 2022, 4:17 p.m.

Mamajozi

Hey

Aug. 17, 2022, 3:08 a.m.

Mashangase

Hey

Aug. 16, 2022, 3:08 a.m.

Barbielicious

I always fight with my bestie so what I must do ❤️😩🥺

Aug. 14, 2022, 7:21 p.m.

Thingo

Heyy everyone my name is Thingo❤😻I'm 15 yrs old and I'm new here

Aug. 14, 2022, 3:38 p.m.

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Barbielicious

Ur welcome😩❤️

Katie

Can you please send me your number phone, this is my number 0617358274

Aug. 14, 2022, 12:37 p.m.

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Anathi

Hey Katie can i take your number i want someone to chat with please 🥺🥺🥺🥺

Entle

Hi it's the Zulu gal Entle I am new 😀

Aug. 13, 2022, 11:22 p.m.

Awethu

New freinds❤😁❤😁❤ everybody's tens plz

Aug. 13, 2022, 5:48 p.m.

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Gladys

0634417246

Juliet

Hey am 15 and I need a new friend...🥰🥺👉👈

Aug. 13, 2022, 1:07 p.m.

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ItsSammy

@Juliet we can be friends

Amierh

0790583937

Amierh

We can be friends 0790583937

2010

Hi I'm new here.... So wats going on

Aug. 9, 2022, 9:22 p.m.

Thembi

You can apologize but if your friend doesn't want your apology give him or her some space to forgive you

Aug. 9, 2022, 7:59 p.m.

Inam

Hey guys I'm new here can you please add me to the Moya Group,here is my number 071 817 4443

Aug. 8, 2022, 9:56 p.m.

Asanda

Hey guys I have a friend who loves me but when I become successful she becomes jealous what do I do😭😭😭

Aug. 8, 2022, 12:23 p.m.

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Thingo

I think that u must ask her that why does she seems like she is jealous of u or maybe ask her that why does she seems unhappy when u become successful just ask her that and look at her reaction when u ask her

Asanda

Hey guys I'm new here can you plz add me to the Moya group 0717243284

Aug. 8, 2022, 12:20 p.m.

Nozipho

Last week I have a fight with my ex and my friend we were fighting for my ex what I should do 😕

Aug. 7, 2022, 5:10 p.m.

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Asanda

If you are the cause of the fight just try to apologize maybe he or she Will forgive you

aishamagade

It happened to me and I let go of my pride and said sorry

July 31, 2022, 6:32 p.m.

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Nozipho

Good girl

Thwala

Hello my name is Ntando I am this guys

July 30, 2022, 10:53 a.m.

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Cindy

0673571358 add me

Gladys

0634417246 add

Esona

Hi my name is Esona I had a fight with my boyfriend last weekend and also am pregnant he unloved his family in our relationship so what must I do

July 27, 2022, 12:06 a.m.

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aishamagade

Hi Esona which school r you from

Kgaugelo

Tell hem that you are pregnant . Because if you don't tell hem now he is going to think that the baby you are carrying is not his baby.😔😔😔😔

Reatlegile

Tell him that you are pregnant

Nozipho

How old are you

Simo

Me too I'm Esona do this tell your boyfriend that he can't see the baby only do that🥺🥺please

Lindelwa_Leerh

Okay .I'm 12 years old😊.Can you give me your number?♡♡♡♡👭

July 25, 2022, 2:44 a.m.

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Lindelwa_Leerh

To:Buhle♡♡♡

Amierh

0790583937-my name is Amierh

Lindelwa_Leerh

Thnx oky how old I you?

Retha

0677685191Rethabile

Lindelwa_Leerh

How old are you?

Ori34

0722845811 name Bridget Bianca

Nozipho

0799874398=I'm Nozipho ♡♡♡

Inam

0718174443=Inam

Gladys

0634417246 Gladys❤️♥️🦋🐼

Nomhle

Hi guyz I'm Nomhle and I'm new here I had a fight with my friend last week soh I am actually asking for an advice🤞😔😔

July 24, 2022, 9:30 a.m.

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Buhle_mabontle

Sorry girl. Why don't you ask fpr forgiveness

Buhle_mabontle

Hey. My name is Buhle. I am new here. But i think you should be able to be humble and apologise. Even though you are not the person who started the fight,you should alway be able to be humble and apologise. If she/he is willing to fight,walk away. Thank you❤

July 23, 2022, 7:53 p.m.

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Lindelwa_Leerh

Hey Buhle,How are you and how old are your?

Lindelwa_Leerh

Hey Buhle,How old are your?

Reatlegile

How old are you?

Lindelwa_Leerh

Ohh sorry!😏My keyboard has a problems.thnx☺♡

Lindelwa_Leerh

And your Reatlegile how old I you?

Lindelwa_Leerh

*And you

Buhle_mabontle

Hey guys❤. I am 10 years old. How about you?😚❤

Lindelwa_Leerh

Okay.I'm 12 years old😊.Can you give me your number?♡👭

Amierh

I'm 15 year's Here's my number-0790583937

Lindelwa_Leerh

Amierh sorry don't send me a message again this is my mother's phone💗😊.

Ori34

0722845811

Ntoyonke

Hi buhle how are you 🥰 how old are you

Asanda

😍😍😍💖💖💖true can we be friends you are a good influence to me😎😎

Tman

SHARING NUMBERS

July 23, 2022, 6:34 a.m.

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Asanda

😂😂🤣🤣lol

Nothawelanga

Hi guys I am new here I had a friend we always fighting and I do not want to please give me advice

July 19, 2022, 3:57 p.m.

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lebogang

moya number

Pre4t7t6y

0680887218

Buhle_mabontle

Sorry girl. How old are you are what is your name

Tishetsho

Maybe you can try and go to her say sorry 😞 because you can't go on without her. I know how it feels to lose Orr fight with someone close to you

July 18, 2022, 1:29 p.m.

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lebogang

moya number

lebogang

0795876285 ADD PLSS

July 18, 2022, 6:36 a.m.

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Pre4t7t6y

Heyy guys I'm pretty and am new here😔can u plz add me to your group 0680887218thnx plz¯\_༼ ಥ ‿ ಥ ༽_/¯

Pre4t7t6y

0680887218

Xolani34

Okythnx

Retha

Hey guys I'm new here too pls add me to your group 0677685191

Retha

Hey guys I'm new here too pls add me 0677685191

Buhle_mabontle

Add to?

Gladys

Hi guys I'm new🦋🐼

Gladys

0634417246 pz add me

lebogang

0795876

July 18, 2022, 6:35 a.m.

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Thingo

🤔🙄

100sky

Me and my friend always fight after a minute then we talk of something else 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂me and my best friend is crazy😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

July 17, 2022, 8:29 p.m.

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lebogang

moyanumber pls

Pre4t7t6y

That me and my bff u know if she's/he is ur bff for real she will forgive and forget but if she's not off course she will never forget 🥰🥰and some frnd can pretend very well be aware she could use u 🥺🥺🥺

Xolani34

Hawu uhamba ukuluma ngolungisile dizomuxelela By the way Heyy ❤️❤️ am new💖💖💖

Pre4t7t6y

Yhoo wea why this is a group of support and encouragement so if u need a physical help we give u an advice yezwa🥺🥺🥺🥺

Tshedza

I did fight with my friend because when see her other friends they teased me and i started to get upset and changed and when they talk to me i started not to respond and she started to realise his mistake and came to me and 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏beg me to forgive him and i forgived him and now we are BESTA BOMBAS👊👊

July 17, 2022, 12:29 p.m.

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lebogang

3dd add e3d3r

Asanda

That's what happening to me right now but I'm happy for you guys

Fefe

GOOD MORNING ❤❤

July 17, 2022, 7:20 a.m.

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Tshedza

Fefe what is your Surname

Fefe

Ke Sebego Lala😘😘

lebogang

moya number

Good

😍❤️ Springster

July 16, 2022, 6:58 a.m.

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lebogang

moya number💜

Good

I don't like my friend anymore because she loves boys 2222 much 1 day we yelled when we had fight her mom heard us and she said how long this happening than I said maybe a few yrs she became angry than my friend said how could you

July 16, 2022, 6:57 a.m.

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Meerah

I had a fight with my bestie because she didn't like that I got all the boys an she didn't ,not that I want that it really messed me up

Buhle_mabontle

Yah ne💖 abangani abathanda umjolo. Bazomitha🤰🤰one day. Thula ubheke wena🤞🤞

Owethu13.

Yes wena girl..hamba buhle😂😂

Nozipho

Uyangihlekisa buhle😂😂😂😂kodwa u are telling the truth

Entle

Kanjalo nje gal

Meisie

Hi

July 15, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Nkateko

Hi

Asheilgh

Hey ☺

lebogang

moya number guys

Pre4t7t6y

Heyy 💜💙💛

Amierh

0790583937

Reatlegile

Hey

Zoë

I don't like my bestie anymore because she likes boys too much and doesn't talk 2 me Alot😶

July 15, 2022, 7:14 p.m.

Valelo

Hello guys in the morning

July 14, 2022, 4:41 a.m.

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Meisie

Yes

lebogang

moya number guys

Pre4t7t6y

Mara guy here's my number 0680887218

Lebondaba02

Heyy mpho I think you should open ur heart and try to fix things with your friend❤👭

July 12, 2022, 8:31 p.m.

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Sksa1234

Yes

Leano

I also had a fight with my bestie just for doing the right thing. Well I reported her for cheating in an exam and she was angry at me. I apologised to her but I still feel like she hasn't forgiven me yet and we don't have connection like we used to before🥺💔

July 12, 2022, 7:02 p.m.

Konka

Hey guys I need help me well I had there was this guy who liked me then I like him too then it happened that the guy did not like me he liked my friend which my friend had a crush on the guy and the guy told my friend that he liked her and it turns out they are dating sometimes they seat together

July 12, 2022, 4:25 p.m.

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Olivier

Ohh sorry grl😔😔

Retha

I think you should talk to your friend that you don't like what is happening

Meisie

Hii

Retha

😔

Tshedza

Sorry 😕

Mageliza

Hi i am in the same situation💔 and i don't knw how to deal with it😪because we are both stubborn even if i try to talk to her it feels like i am speaking alone😏 but i can see that she still sees a frnd in me but our pride is also on,what should i do,should i apologize even if she is never interested or should i let her go???

July 8, 2022, 1:01 p.m.

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Tshedza

Let her go 😜

Katie

I think that is a good idea

Alwande

It's ok to be not ok as said what you have to do is to just find peace and forgive yourself remember that you come first in your life 🥺♥️

June 30, 2022, 6:38 p.m.

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ZEEYAH

Yes I agree because I have gone through it and didn't turn out well but to we are friends so they don't always have to be your best friend they can always still be you friend

Tshedza

I agree

Lelethu

It ís normally to fight with some one close or related to no need to stress your self please take good care of yourself ❤️

June 26, 2022, 10:17 p.m.

Sammy

Yah that true MPO if I was u I was going to forgive my self then stat to talk about how sorry u a oky don't be stressed

June 23, 2022, 11:26 p.m.

Naima

Don't stress it is absolutely normal to fight with your loved ones,💕But try not to make things worse than it already is So please take care of yourself and your relatives don't let the devil come over you or them 💯♥️

June 15, 2022, 2:12 p.m.

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Meisie

Mokjiuhdvb

she_pretty

Hi, I was in the same situation and had a fight with my best friend but soon after that we made up but it doesn't feel the same anymore when we together. I don't trust her as much as I use to. I truly think that our friendship is over and I'm okay with it. If she is not able to sense the awkwardness between us then she doesn't value the friendship.

May 17, 2022, 6:06 p.m.

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Katie

Sorry to hear that 😭