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In recent years refugees from Somalia, Sudan, Ethiopia and the Democratic Republic of Congo fled from violence in their countries and arrived in Kenya. This is the story of one girl:

My name is Fatuma. I was born in a village in Somalia. My mother abandoned me when I was a baby and because my stepmother hated my mother, she always found a reason to beat and insult me. She never let me play or attend school. Instead, she sent me out with the goats each day and made me stay out until it was dark. My father didn’t bother with household matters, including how I was treated. I grew up feeling lonely and sad. One day I begged my older brother to take me away to the city with him. When he did, I was happier than I had ever been in my life. But one day when I was at the market I heard a blast. I’ve always been curious so I ran towards the noise when everyone ran away from it.

Suddenly, I fell backward and everything went dark. When I woke up, I was in a hospital, and found out that I had been shot in the arm and that my brother was missing. My neighbour asked me to escape with her to Kenya, where I could find a better hospital. It’s the worst decision of my life. Even today, I don’t know where my brother is. I should have waited for him — the only person who ever loved me. I was in a lot of pain from my wound, and I was afraid because I had no family in Kenya. A family took me in but they said I was using my injury as an excuse to get out of doing chores and kicked me out after a year.

An older lady who was helping me to try see a doctor told me about Heshima Kenya when she found out that I was homeless. They work with refugee girls and welcomed me with open arms. This made me feel hopeful for the first time since I arrived Kenya. At the safe house I met girls like me. They escaped war in their countries, didn’t have families, and faced the same challenges as me.

Heshima Kenya arranged for me to get the surgery I needed to save my arm. I was also taught how to read and write. I’m now training to become a photo journalist.

It’s important to tell the world what is happening to refugee girls. Just because my hand is not working properly, I will not give up on my dreams. I now see many possibilities for girls that I never realised existed. This is my message to all girls who are only sleeping and waking: No matter how hard the ups and downs of life are, don’t give up. I know that are many sad stories behind many successes. Even if you are not there yet, it’s nice to be on your way.

Read more about Fatuma’s story at grassrootsgirls.tumblr.com

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Hi guys i am new here if you want to add me here is my no 0835522008

Aug. 11, 2022, 6:26 a.m.

Thwala

Ahhh no guys does not allow I to be a best friend

July 28, 2022, 8:21 p.m.

Lolixo

It's gonna be OK

July 10, 2022, 6:48 p.m.

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Thwala

Yes

Thwala

Yes allow to you

Shalom

But guy why do parents beat us My mom likes beating me or shutting all most everyday Sometimes she says that I'll beat you until your hand break then when I grow up I will tell my kid what happened to me

July 6, 2022, 8:19 p.m.

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@Lisa.com

What😮

Shapo

Hi gal how are you

Tshedza

No do not hesitate, when you do that you will make to your kids to hate him

100sky

Don't worry just pray to God

Mthaniya

Hey Asanda on text how are

Sometimes i do feel lonely just because iam old and I don't have boyfriend I don't have friends its only me and my family.....I cannot even talk with my mother with serious staff because she is old fashion ladie......if I could only find friend iwould be so happy....

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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I feel like you are not alone in this world as there are many people feeling the same way as you feel ,you need to seek support or speak your feelings about something as it is not right to always keep your feeling bottled up ca user it causes stress and may lead to sicknesses

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I feel like you are not alone in this world as there are many people feeling the same way as you feel ,you need to seek support or speak your feelings about something as it is not right to always keep your feeling bottled up ca user it causes stress and may lead to sicknesses

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Yes,I do feel lonely especially when am sad,hurt or in pain...i feel like no one cares for me...in times of heartbreak if there is no one to comfort you you'll always feel lonely....

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I've been through so much in my life thus far from being homeless to a drunken mom neglected by family to loosing everything and staying at family's I'm 19 of age passed my schooling currently studieng proudly did all on my own but just when Im allowed to smile life nocks me Down and I'm without a home again and it hurts cause I'm only but a child I have nowhere to go to no stability I always have to stress were I will be sleeping what I'm going to eat how to react and smile ......I really don't know how to cope with life anymore I feel like giving it up its soon hard

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Yes cz ihv no frnds cnt believe it either wsh t find true frnd guys. Plz frm dbn I.wantsomeone who.wil my sister nd frnd

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Hey am llewellyn and i just want 2 say that i was in the Same thing but i wil never give up u sound like a nice person and i no how this it feel to be alone but all i can say is god is with u

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Motivation!!!

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

I also dont hv friends and am looking for one around plk in SA

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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I can be your friend

I can be your friend

Tshedza

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I have no friends its over 7 years now however my family is my friends

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Tshedza

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💋wow God bless Heshima Kenya

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Dnt everything's happens for a reason it wll pass

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

You are a strong girl.I wish I could be like you....

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Uou are strong

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Thats so said you are strong

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

What a tormented story ,God is there for everyone

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Thanks for the inspiration

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

It's Sad ey . . . She's my inspiration

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Thanks for the inspiration..

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Thanks for the insparation may the good Lord guid u nd fulfil your dreams

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Think you for me give hope to live n may god be with u all the way

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

If someone listens,or stretches out a hand,or whispers a kind word of encoursgement,or attempts to understand a lonely person,extraordinary things begin to happen

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

God be with nana

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

God is really there n he is alive wow! I wish i was strong as you il be thankful to god u r so brave am inspired u soo brave yhooo god bless u i lv u:* wow! That so very brave of u yhooo!norrr !!

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

May God bless you or show you some ways of success because you seems like you are so brave n confident for your life

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

inspiration from you wow!*

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Wow

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

U are so strong

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

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Yea

So now how r u coping?

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Yea..........................

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

Yu've just made me cry... Thinking of all the hard times yu've been through marn, especially yur mom being not there. It's really painful but whatever yu go through don't forget to pray to God because everything is possible with God.... I love yu!

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

What a sad story. I guess u are now strong and u need to pray for ur brother so that god can show u a way to find each other

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

It is a touching story

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

It's a very sad story.... but I am clad that u were strong

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

eish I feel lonely too,stay strong gel

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

this is sad

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

that's a very touching story girl ...but thanks those who welcomed you

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

always feeling sad coz knw1 loving me after my gf and frds betray me

March 20, 2022, 9:01 p.m.

What an inspiring and touching story

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Ohh what a supporting massage

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Wow!! what an inspiring story!!

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

mmmh inspiring and sad at the same time

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Wow that's is one good story I am a friend of yours too hope that you find your brother soon

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

shame god b with u gals

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

hy sisters I have ths problem of staying aln in my room whn I hv problem and sometimes whn am nt feelng I jst take my dairy and write what happened but I dnt move on I keep it inside my heart even thought I think of doing bad things

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hu Muheleketi. I think it would be good for you to read this article to see that you actually aren't alone even when you're feeling alone and that many girls deal with things just like you explained you do http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/its-not-you-its-me/ Have you thought about a parent, older sibling, aunty, teacher or a professional who can offer you support? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful

You have to let them go think positive and not negative my dear

I'm inspired 😁

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

This story really touches my heart!!

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

you are inspiration to all and you had shown us is not circumstances but choice

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

that determined your destiny

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I Need Some Help And Please Don't Judge Me. ....The Thing Is I Dated Some Guy Last Year And Things Didn't Go Well So We Ended Up Breaking Up, And My Self Esteem Dropped. EverSince Then I Never Dated Anyone, I'm Ready To Have A Boyfriend But Every Time I Try Dating I Lose Interest, And I'm Scared That Maybe My Next Relationship Will Never Work. All Of My Friends Have Boyfriends I'm The Only One Who Is Single. ..Guys Help Me Please I Don't Know What's Wrong With Me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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u lose interest becoz u invested a lot in your previous relationship and u did not let go of the things u experienced in that relationship .I think u should give yourself time to heal and let go of your ex and then u will be ready to move on.

You feel like u ready to date but something in u is not ready and becouse your friends are dating it does not mean that u have to date to . ur time will came so what I will say tell u is ur time will came

Hello Girls. I have a Boyfriend and I love him so much we are both in Grade 12 and he wants us to go study at Pretoria because that's where he can I trust him that he won't change and I'd be left alone in a place I don't know ? Please help

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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hey there..if you trust him and feel you really want to go with him then its up to you ..good luck

I was feeling the same after telling a lie to the person i loved the most. I abandoned my parents to go after a boyfriend now im pregnant and now right this second he tells me to go for an abortion and he left me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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I'm sorry to hear that .. really

That is too bad and he his very heartless

Sometimes never let people to put u down be ur self and don't be they want u to be coz u will hate ur life

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

This story helps me so much . i wont give up on my dreams.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

Hello I'm new here and I have gone thru diff articles and I read some comment and stories and I'm inspired. I'm a very honest and I love making people happy but the problem I'm having with my self is that I advice people alot and it works perfectly for them but when it get to my turn I don't have a bestie no one to talk to or share my problem with my mother isn't helping matters either always nagging and shouting at me It makes me looks like I'm nothing and that I can't move on without her and I look down on my self alot but now I'm getting use to it like I will be great I just need more advice to educate me more becos I'm very emotional I get hurt easily

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Thanks for reading our stories and letting them inspire you. Don't be too hard on yourself, you would be surprised by how many girls look like they have it all figured out but feel exactly how you do. I think you just need a boost in confidence so here's an article you can read http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/your-confidence-check/

Hi I go through the same thing too, where u feel like the world is shutting u out everytime u try your best.. I usually listen to inspirational music, it helps u get through a tough day.

This story inspires me

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I'm a Gl of ,15 .on first week September went to spring day party with school mates.I was drugged and drunk .ended up not sleeping home fo days .my parents search for me fo seven day .I was found in a house I don't even know him I got there.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

I'm a Gl of ,15 .on first week September went to spring day party with school mates.I was drugged and drunk .ended up not sleeping home fo days .my parents search for me fo seven day .I was found in a house I don't even know him I got there.

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Did you try to ask your friends about what happened on that day? If something terrible happened to you I would suggest you seek counseling or if possible speak to someone you trust

Hi Springster. Thank you for sharing your comment. What happened to you was not your fault and must still be very difficult to deal with on your own. Have you tried speaking to a trusted adult, friend or mentor for support? Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared or feel alone.. They are here to help you! Don't forget your friend can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

It's amazing how you went through a lot in life and still didn't give up. I wish I had more faith like you

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. Faith is a belief in something. It's a learnt behaviour. Don't give up, belief can grow everyday little by little with the right thought and with good energy around us!

Sometimes i feel ashamed coz i've disclosed my status to many people n Left home because i felt unwanted but suddenly my mom's family want me back i don't want to be a burden to them ...pllz can anyone advice me pllz

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hi Springster. There is nothing for you to be ashamed of. Your status is something you have and not who you are. As long as you take your medication, eat healthy and exercise, you can lead a long successful life. Don't push away people who want to show you support. Be open minded and accepting of their support of you. You will not be a burden, I recommend you go back home and it will ease your stress and the stress of your family. They are just looking out for your wellbeing. Good luck!

There is nothing to be ashamed of. They care about you.

Yah they lv and they want to support u dont worry u will be fine

keep fighting girls you can reach were you want too God is there for all keep fighting l known women god make you strong for life .Chibabababa

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

keep fighting girls you can reach were you want too God is there for all keep fighting l known women god make you strong for life .Chibabababa

March 20, 2022, 9 p.m.

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Hey Springster. Thanks for the motivation.

hi I'm 19 yrs old last year I dated a guy he was so loving,caring at the first time I really thought he was the one for me...but after a while things changed he started name calling me,abusing me physical almost everyday I was not supposed even to talk to people in my school I was always with him I always forgive him after his action thinking that he wil change but he is even worse I tried scaring him that I will open a case against him but he always tells me that he will never get arrested if he do I must make sure that we will never meet because he will come back for me I'm stressed I'm going matric ....even if I get high marks than his he get so angry I don't even get a chance to focus on my books I can't even talk to my sister about this I always think that after writing I should just go somewhere maybe he will forget about me because I'm even scared to tell him that its over.....

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Carol12. Thank you for sharing this with us, it's very brave of you and we're sorry you're having to go through this experience. It's important for you to know that what's happening is in no way your fault. I'm sorry that you feel you have no one to turn to, but there are people and places you can go to for support. You amazing first step by telling us. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. The service is completely confidential - you don't even need to give them your name if you don't want to. They will help you think through your options and work out what the best next steps are - you can do this over the phone, in person and online. You can contact them any time of the day or night on their Toll Free Helpline on 08 000 55 555 or check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za

never be scared there is always help out there dont kerp quiet..talk to someone he cant abuse you like this its not okay..and its not your fault dont ever blame yourself for his behavior its unacceptable..you are strong believe it and you can do it ..the will be a light at the end of the tonnel..and if he keeps on harrassing you..you can get an extraining order againts him to leave you alone and to stay away from you..no one should be abused not mentally nor physically..good luck!!

restraining

This can't keep on happening,no matter where you go,he'll always search and find you. Talk to your parents,the police at least. That way,if something bad happens to you,they can always know who to suspect first. You can't keep living in fear,you'll end up doing some things that will hurt your loved ones. Get help soon sister before it's too late

thats the spirit..never give up on your dreams even if their small..believe in yourself believe in you..so sorru about what you had to go thru..but God will help you ..

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Thanks for the great comments NicoleneQ18!!!

Don't know what is required from me

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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What do you mean Sisanda?

How may we assist you Shandaphar?

An inspiring story.😘😚

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Thanks for reading Lira1.

I was staying with my bf in her home because i have no place to stay and suddenly he started acting weird and left me.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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When a car is being built,they lay down it's challenges and how it can takkle them. Same thing as human beings. When God created a human being,he made challenges and tested if we can overcome these challenges. Your boyfriend was just a lesson that no matter how much somebody says they love you,words won't mean nothing if their actions are not portraying what their lips are saying. I'm sure you're a strong woman,all women are,let him leave,he was just a burden to you. Focus on your career at least

Conditions you're in never change your dreams. God bless you for sharing the story,and congratulations on breaking out of the devil's pitt safely,even though you're injured. You are strong,a true inspiration to a lot of young girls out here.

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hey Springster, Thank you for your comment.

Wow, So Brave to share with us. your story is really inspiring

Mmmh what an inspiring story... no matter how hard lyf may be but never give up on your dreams...

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi Ningie. Thanks for reading our story and letting it inspire you.

what a sad story Fatuma.it haa made me to look on a brighter side of my future, it really inspires me

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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Hi kwandy. Thanks for reading our stories and being inspired.

Eish very sry Fatima its lyf we both face challenges yoh I thought um the only one who had painful ups en downs buh nw I hv hope tht things will be fine too .....thnx Fatima fr having confidence of telling us about ur life even though it was hard coz as fr me I still don't hv confidence of telling pple the story of my life I always keep everything in my heart en sumtyms I jst explored into tears...

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

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You feel pain about what??? Maybe we can help

Hi Swee. Thanks for sharing your comment with us. It must be a very difficult time for you but you're not alone. Often, being lonely makes you want to withdraw even more, but there could be people trying to reach out to you. Slowly gather supportive friends and loving people around you. Having people in your life that you can talk to will help you cope with your disappointment, loss, loneliness or sadness. Talking to people can also take a big weight off of your shoulders because we are more alike than we are different. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are suicidal, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hie guys here is my story I was raped by my step father last year but one and wen I told my mom she didn't believe it even our mfundis at church did not believe it coz my step father used to act as a good Samaritan....So I reported my story to this woman who work under childline....I went to the police wth her then I opened a doc my stepdad found out about it en he bully me at home so I ran to tht child line woman then I SLP thre.... Morning the woman take me to the company of child line so I was given a temporary place to stay ....yah thre were some little girls en boys en babies thre at the place I went to stay and those children some of thm face the same situation sum there parents left thm....I was a bit btr but not really I was living under a deep pain...B4 i went to Court my mom wrote me a msg telling me tht she is going to kill herself coz if her husband get arrested en if they gave him lot of years in prison en then he die thre wat is she going to do....she said lot of things tht lead me to close the case and at the end I didn't really feel good about it... I was taken back home but in my heart I wasn't happy about it...I jst do it fr my mother but not fr me coz I was the one who was raped my stepfather deserves to go to jail but my mom jst take it so simple thn she threatened me by telling me tht she is going to kill herself so I was afraid tht if she die I wl blame myself.. I end up tel mama tht I CNT stay thre anymore thn I went to stay sumwer wth my friend's family until I done school.. Then I go back home but um nt comfortabl even nw I jst think of lot of things wen I am at home I think tht my mom don't loves me she love my stepfather over me...I think she don't care about me she cares about my step dad more . So eish I dnt knw wat to do

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Hi Swee. Thank you for being brave and sharing your comment with us. It's very mature of you to seek help, this must be a very difficult time for you. It's important for you to know that what's happening to you is in no way your fault and that you speaking out can help you find a solution. There are people and places out there to help you if you are willing to get help. You mentioned someone at Childline trying to assist you but that you didn't pursue the case because your mother was making you feel bad. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you feel scared, alone or if youre being harmed and just need someone to listen to you. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website:http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

You have to reopen the case .. Your mother is being unfair because she is not the one who got raped .. If she wants to kill herself then let her because it's clear that she supports her husband over her own daughter Please be brave enough to open a case against him He can not get away with what he did And I also suggest that you go see a therapist or someone to talk to and who can help you get over your experience You are a big , brave girl I admire your courage to tell your story

You have to reopen the case .. Your mother is being unfair because she is not the one who got raped .. If she wants to kill herself then let her because it's clear that she supports her husband over her own daughter Please be brave enough to open a case against him He can not get away with what he did And I also suggest that you go see a therapist or someone to talk to and who can help you get over your experience You are a big , brave girl I admire your courage to tell your story

Yes galy u are talking thruth u must open a case me too when i got rap fwe mount ago i open a case and they help me talk to tarapist to help me now i move on with my life i help main galz like u dont worrie springster got ur back u will be fine galy sorry

yhoo I know that time when no one wants to believe you even those who are supposed to look after you....very sorry love ...buuh stay strong

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Thanks for reading our story Zanothando

open th case so that he doesn't get away with this it might happen to someone else also , so make a stop to it .Your mother suppose to Stand with you and be there for you cause that is what a real mother does .

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

open th case so that he doesn't get away with this it might happen to someone else also , so make a stop to it .Your mother suppose to Stand with you and be there for you cause that is what a real mother does .

March 20, 2022, 8:59 p.m.

This is a breathtaking story...I am happy that it has a happy ending even if we face so many things in life

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Hi Springster, thank you for you comment. Sometimes to get to the rainbow you have to walk through some rain.

Hie um alone and suffering bcz of my relationship with my boyfriend and my mom and my sisters

March 20, 2022, 8:58 p.m.

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Your mom and sister don't like your boyfriend or your boyfriend doesn't like them? Iam confused,

When I tell my mom that they z something wrong between my sis and me she always said that um lying

And my boyfriend always lying to me when I asked him where he was

Lee you need to sit down with your mom when your sister is not home, tell her how you feel. If she is a strict mom then i don't know i too cant even talk with my mom she is so strict.

Hi Leona. Thanks for your comment. Relationships between sibling can be difficult but it doesn't always have to be that way. Start by communicating with your sister about your feelings. Here's an article to help with your relationship with your mother. http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/relationship-goals-me-and-mom/

My life is just hard my friends turned their backs on me iam alone i know i must find new friends but its hard to make friends since my ex friends were my childhood friends, is the any place here on springster I can talk to someone privately about how i feel because the only option may be really bad

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yes michy am here my dear

Twolee i just need a friend one whom i can spend a day with, laugh with, share secrets with. Can you be that friend,not be rude or anything but you can't i mean how will i get to know you i don't know what gender you are or your name. Life is a roller coaster you don't know whether you up or you down its just spinning

Hi michy15. Thanks for sharing your comment with us. This must be a very difficult time for you. I can understand why you feel alone but there are so many people out there that if your friends could turn their backs on you then maybe they weren't that great to begin with. I recommend trying to make friends in the real world, you just need to put yourself out there with girls with similar interests as you here's an article on how to make friends in the real world http://za.heyspringster.com/sections/my-life/make-great-friendships-in-the-real-world/

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Hey gal..yes its normal ..u feel that way...bt juss try to move on...life is a journey swty..you stil gonna meet new amzing pple

IHi sprinters I'm new ,I also had a similar problem I lost my mother at the of 7 after me n my older brother burnt the house to ashes she felt sick then died the thing is that after the incident always fell the guilty n conscience ,lonely,the thing is that I can't move on becoz these thing is haunting me each n every day,what can I do to felling lyk a bad person

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Hi there I'm sorry about your lost. My love go out for you I don't think you should feel guilty about anything, your older brother was responsible for his actions.

Hi YLM. Thanks for sharing your comment. Although this incident happened many years ago, feeling sadness is understandable. I think you should work on moving forward, I don't think it's your fault and that the fire was caused on purpose, you were just a little girl. Often, being lonely makes you want to withdraw even more, but there could be people trying to reach out to you. Slowly gather supportive friends and loving people around you. Having people in your life that you can talk to will help you cope with your disappointment, loss, loneliness or sadness. Sadly, we can't talk to you directly but you can call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are suicidal, depressed or feel alone. They are here to help you! Contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za, Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

That is bad news. I hope you will be fine soon. I am Sabelo. I am come from Durban, South Africa. In 2012, i completed matric. I am a person Deaf. I could not speak and no hear my ear. I only written the book and anything. My parent love me as I love them but the stepmother hate me when I am a person Deaf and she also may not support me anything. In 2013, I arrived in Johannesburg, because I was absent without tell my parents when I found a job 'Eaton' in Germiston, Johannesburg and I also found a room until 2018. My life is good. I am single without chicks.

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Am suffering of being me...i don't who i am anymore

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I guess you should do more self introspection about yourself,find out more about you like what kind of a person you are,what do you like or dislike n jus be yourself care less about what another person is saying about you.

MY Name is ERROLL I living in LOMBiZA.l have 18yers old.I love FAtuma for ever and Rever Because she make me happy any time when I talk with him.

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My mother died when I was nine. I never thought it would affect me as I grow up, now I'm always moody and scared to share how I feel to my family.I'm even scared to love any guy I date I feel insecure and scared to love I feel like everyone is here to torn me apart.

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Hi Springster, you can't live in isolation forever. Eventually you have to let people in and open yourself up to different kinds of relationships. You can contact Childline SA and they can help you heal and deal with your trauma. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you need extra support or just need someone to listen to you. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll-Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website: http://www.childlinesa.org.za.

Hey ..I know a lot of people yet I feel so alone most of the time when I'm with them? What should I do ?

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Hi Springster, we all feel lonely sometimes. Sometimes you can be around a lot of people still feel alone. Cause maybe it's not about how many people you have around you - it's about feeling a real connection to someone. Read this article on Springster, "Help! I’m sad and lonely" - it has a lot of great tips and suggestions that may help with you.

Ever since my pregnancy I was pushing people out basically shutting then out even now I open up but not as much as I did so much so I work alone in class

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Hi springster I'm still young at the age of 22 I've been in a abuse relationship sometimes I just crack down and cry its like I can't forget about what happened to me evens when I look in the mirror I get emotional...now that I have this new partner that's so jealous and when he just shout at me or swear I get real emotional and scared then I feel like I'm gonna stab or kill him..advice me please

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very sad but iam glad for you

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Thank you♥

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I hope someday you find your brother

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Thank you

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What a sad Story I hope u will find yr Brother one day

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Hey Springster, thanks for this comment.

As a girl in that position.. You were so strong to have fought against the treatment.. Education is important.. It is not a matter of where you come from but it's always about where you are going in life... Girls out there should learn to have pride and build stable Futures for the world....

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Very sad 😢😢😢😢

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Very sad 😢😢😢😢

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Hey Guys I've been an introvert ever since I left high school and I only enjoys my boyfriend's company and whenever I'm not okay I'll go and see him then everything will be alright . If he's not around I'd rather deal with it on my own . Am I not getting too attached to him ?? Have I gave it all in this relationship . Won't I get hurt. Please advice me . I don't know if it's Normal.

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Hey Guys I've been an introvert ever since I left high school and I only enjoys my boyfriend's company and whenever I'm not okay I'll go and see him then everything will be alright . If he's not around I'd rather deal with it on my own . Am I not getting too attached to him ?? Have I gave it all in this relationship . Won't I get hurt. Please advice me . I don't know if it's Normal.

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am 21 years old am doing my grade 11 should I go to school or what

I do feel like you are getting too attached to him and you shouldn't try speaking to other people or go out with your friends if you love your alone time or do not want to be around people watch tv or listen to music get a hobby do something to keep you busy because people wake up with different feelings everyday today he might love you tomorrow his feelings will be gone faded away and at times when you are too attached to a boy like that they wouldn't wanna spend time with you and that will be the reason why they break up with you becoz he has things to do he can't be the whole time with you so just to make sure that your heart doesn't get broken don't get too attached remember that not everything and everyone in life's guaranteed to be yours or stay in your life. I am not saying that you will get hurt but you might it is normal to be or wanna be around him the whole time my advice is that you just don't be too attached and give him space don't be all up in his grill so much. I am no love expert I haven't dated before I'm very young still but I know a lot of these things because I see how love breaks many people's hearts and it ain't nice it isn't.Maybe you aren't an introvert maybe you are shy or you are the type of person who loves keeping your circle small try doing things to keep you busy and take care.

Gal..I like what u r saying that no matter how hard it is...don't give up

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My name is portia mothapo,im 17 yrs ols and i'm nw here i like to share my story😢 i don't have are mother she past away and i was soh young i don't nw her ... is pain full cos i feel like she there for mew😢😢

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Hey Porsha, it's really important to keep your personal identity safe by being anonymous or by letting us refer to you with your username. Never reveal your name, surname, contact details, address or other information on online forums and sites. With regards to your comment, we understand how hard it can be to lose someone. Although no one can ever replace the love from your mother, make sure that you have other trusted adults to talk to, like a relative, older sister, teacher, or school counsellor. You can also always call Childline SA. They will offer you counselling over the phone, in person and online. You don't need to give them your name and can contact them any time of the day or night. Contact them if you are scared, feel alone and if something is happening to you, or someone you know. They are here to help you! Don't forget you can contact them on their 24/7 Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555 for help. Check out their website on http://www.childlinesa.org.za as well as their Facebook and Twitter page for useful information.

Hey galz how hard its is don't give up

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This is so true. Thank you Springster.

Fatuma i like u story bcz tuoched me its a painfully story bt i like its

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Hey Tyd1003, we are glad this story could resonate with you. It means a lot to us.

I hope u will find ur brother what a sad storie sorry galy but u will find ur brother one day

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Hello Tyd1003 Thank you for this.You are such a nice person Springster.

Its never good to be alone and suffering always try to tell someone and if you can't trust anyone you can always tell your springster friend❤❤❤❤❤

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true

What I like about Springster though I recently joined it that no1 judges each other and that people can support you here I must say that 2018 has been a bad year for me at school the very reason why I don't wanna go to school because people can say so many mean things to me and hurt me so many back stabbers and people who judge you people who smile up in your face and behind your back be speaking crazy about you.Like it was the very reason why I would cry so much because people who I thought were my friends were just using me.School was the very reason why that when I think I got headaches my neck be stiff my body be sore and I be feeling like a zombie.Like so many times I've thought about committing suicide but I just can't I won't I'll fight this in life I'll prove people wrong I'll continue being me I'll do my best.I'll try everyday my very best to be successful in life and help out others.I know that I may sound dumb as a 14 year old people won't take me seriously but if any of you ever need someone to talk to I'm here just tell me what be popping and I'll help you out.I will try my very best because hearing other peoples stories helps me to feel better and I know that this year has been nonsense for me but it ain't over yet so imma try and make the best of it imma try and make memories imma do my best imma do me.

Why many girls and most of the time they always become the guys story

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Yhoo ppl are awful

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Yes Springster, there are some sad stories out there but as Fatuma says, "No matter how hard the ups and downs of life are, don’t give up. I know that are many sad stories behind many successes. Even if you are not there yet, it’s nice to be on your way."

I want us to meet

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I want you

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So sad😢😢😢

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Shame that's a sad story girl😭😭

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Shame i feel sorry for her😢😢😢😢

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Shame i feel sorry for her😢😢😢😢

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Hey am new here ,Fatima's story is very touching and i feel sorry for her 😶

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Hey I'm also new how are you?

So sad I feel sorry for her hope she stays strong God bless her and may she prosper in life.😖💕

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Same to you may god bless you and keep you

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Hello Bouncylicious You are so sweet.We love you.

Guys im new in here can you welcome me please?and I feel lonely I just need a friend maybe

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Eish!!!!!yr story is touching

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Guys I'm suffering by emotional my mother doesn't care about me and my little sister we live with our grandmother sometyms we sleep without eating eish a worse thing is she don't even visit us and me and my little sister we are still schooling iam in grade11 my little sister she's in grade 5 iam jst asking my self iam gonna pass this year or even after school I don't feel to return back home....sometyms I feel lyk killing my little sister and me but there something stop me so guys I'm always in tear...sometyms I feel lyk mother she doesn't want the prblm is knw one knw about this situation its only us who knws ....soh I need help guys soh wat must I doh guys???????

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Guys I'm suffering by emotional my mother doesn't care about me and my little sister we live with our grandmother sometyms we sleep without eating eish a worse thing is she don't even visit us and me and my little sister we are still schooling iam in grade11 my little sister she's in grade 5 iam jst asking my self iam gonna pass this year or even after school I don't feel to return back home....sometyms I feel lyk killing my little sister and me but there something stop me so guys I'm always in tear...sometyms I feel lyk mother she doesn't want us in her lyf ...the prblm is no one knw about this situation its only us who knws ....soh I need help guys soh wat must I doh guys???????

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Hello Nthabelen, we are so sorry that you are going through that. This must be very hard for you. Is there anyone you can talk to who can be able to help you. It can be a relative, a teacher or someone that you would feel safe to talk to. If there is no one please contact the Childline on their Toll Free Helpline: 08 000 55 555

Im worried about my ex girlfriend. We met in 2014 when she was still at high school and she was doing grade 9 at that time but unfortunately I made her pregnant and she had to drop out of school. I had to take responsibility and support her financially and that was easy because I was employed. She gave birth to a beatiful daughter named vuyolwethu means our happiness. I got fired at work and I was not able to provide for her but my family supported my daughter with everything. The mother of my daughter comes from a very poor family were they would even go to bed without eating. She broke up with me because I could'nt give her money to support her family and she decided sell her body to nigerians who live here in south africa so that she can atleast go to bed with something on her stomach. Now I feel guilty because she had to quit school because of me. So the fact that her life is a mess I blame my self. That is why I ask springster to help me deal with this matter because everytime I see her the pain inside my heart becomes worse....

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Hello Springster, thanks for trusting us with this. It is a difficult situation to be in but it is important that you don't go through this alone. We acknowledge the support you have given to her. It is not your fault that you lost your job but this is a challenge you can overcome. What matters the most is the present moment. Have you tried talking to her family? Try to find a way to talk to her and see if there is no other way you can help her as a family. Even if she doesn't change don't blame yourself because you would have done everything you could to help her. It would help to talk to a professional who will be able to give you advice on how to deal with the situation emotionally as well. We hope this helps and feel free to come back and let us know how you are doing.

Its uncommon for guys to stand up for the mistakes they have done Thank you for that🙌

Fatuma your storie has touched me deeply....i hope you success your dreams.....may god be with you everytime.....and those who are suffering the same pain pray and never give up😭😭👣👣👣take ur steps forward

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Wow😭😭 here many of us are sitting in safe homes and go to school yet we are not thankful for our blessings 🤧🤧 I know refugees they are in much better circumstances here in South Africa. I pray that u find your brother and prove to ur mom that she was wrong to abandon u. Keep us posted on ur life story. ❤️❤️ God bless.

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Yeah giggles is right god bless you girl we are with you 💖💕

Sorry for you gel

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That's the nicest part of us girls we don't give up easily Power to us✌✌

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